Cut the pressed tofu into 1-inch cubes and place in a small mixing bowl. Mix soy sauce, sesame oil, and apricot jam, then pour over the tofu. Let it marinate for at least 10 minutes to soak up the flavors.
While the tofu marinates, rinse the grains thoroughly and cook in boiling water for about 15 minutes until fluffy and tender. Set aside.
Heat a non-stick skillet over medium-high heat. Add a teaspoon of oil and carefully place the tofu cubes in the hot pan. Sear for 3-4 minutes on each side until golden brown and crispy, listening for a gentle crackle as the coating crisps up.
In the same pan, toast the sesame seeds over medium heat for 2-3 minutes until they turn golden and release a nutty aroma, shaking the pan occasionally to prevent burning.
Add a tablespoon of oil to the skillet and sauté the chopped apricots for about 2 minutes until they soften slightly and emit a fragrant aroma.
Assemble each bowl by placing a bed of cooked grains, topping with the crispy tofu, and scattering the sautéed apricots. Sprinkle generously with toasted sesame seeds and chopped nuts or seeds, if using.
Finish with a drizzle of any remaining marinade or extra sesame oil for added flavor. Serve immediately while everything is warm and crispy, enjoying the crunch and sweetness with each bite.